Alright people, tonight I have to let something out. I’ve read LRHG’s latest livejournal entry, which led me to read some of her friends’ latest livejournal entries. As I read them, I seriously thought “is your life *really* that bad?” in several instances.
I mean we are talking about some very attractive (IMHO) young 20-somethings that are so depressed because life hasn’t turned out as they expected. One friend was lamenting the fact that she isn’t the happy go lucky, bubbly, optimist she used to be. I might even be worried about her if I knew her a little better, she sounds genuinely depressed about life.
Here’s the rub though…my initial reaction was sympathy followed immediately by the thought “how bad can your life really be, you’re only 21…your entire life is ahead of you” and then it hit me. Thus the Pot…calling the kettle…black.
LRHG, I can’t post this at your livejournal because I don’t want to come across as a giant ass…but I have to steal a bit from her again. Boy, she is going to be pissed if she ever stumbles on my blog again…
Well, you know what I’m going to paraphrase. Her last non-survey post was last night. It was titled simply “I wish” and shared her wish that she could make everything better for everyone. Lots of people are going through rough times and she wishes she could make it all better.
Here’s the thing, I heard this yesterday and I like it. I’ve always fallen back on “whatever doesn’t kill me makes me stronger” even when the words seem hollow. Yesterday, the point that was made is that stress is the catalyst for growth in our lives. If everything really was paradise, if all of our wishes came true, we’d atrophy. Our lives would be meaningless.
Much like our muscles, our selves have to be torn to be built back up. The trick is that we can’t be continually torn, just like our muscles. We have to have periods of recovery. The wonderful thing is that once we’ve made it through a stressful time when then have the experience necessary to help someone else through the same sort of stress in the future.
It is really rather beautiful, once you can look at it outside of the stress itself. But I digress, as I often do.
My real point was that it is just very hard for me to grasp how someone at 21 can be so bloody beaten up already. How can you be running so empty at such a young age (sue me, I like to regurgitate what I hear - if you don’t like it, there’s a little back button on your browser ;-))? How can you be lamenting the fact that you aren’t married, you don’t have the white picket fence, you don’t have the 2.5 children at freakin’ 21!!!!
And then I think…I’ve got 10 years on this person. I know several of my friends have 10 years on me. Is this what you think when you read my posts? Am I just a whiny kid? Or do we ALL go through these periods in our lives? Is this just a natural part of growing up, growing older, growing wiser or harder or whatever cliche you want to use?
What does it really all mean? And does this guy have a friggin’ point already? Truthfully, tonight I don’t know. I was simply struck by the fact that I felt so strongly about replying “welcome to life kiddo” and now I’m wondering how often you all have thought that of me…
Welcome to life…My Momma said it was like a box of chocolates…you never know what you’re gonna get…
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